So you want to find out a bit more about me. Well I get that because I love finding out more about people too!
So here you go:
If we’re talking personality types …
I’m an INFJ:
Introverted – INtuitive – Feeler – Judger
All of these elements exist on a spectrum and often people straddle the centre of that spectrum with one or two of these elements. I don’t straddle. I’m firmly all of the above, but particularly strong on the introversion and feeling.
I spent the first 35 years of my life fighting against my Introversion. I thought introversion = uncool and unsociable and of course you don’t want to be either of these two things in Western society right? Then I read this book and it completely changed the way I felt about myself. Today I embrace and work with the strengths of my introversion, but am mindful of not using it as an excuse to put limitations on myself.
When it comes to being an Intuitive – this explains why I was not well-suited to running a business. I’m a big picture thinker who struggles with systems and details. Thankfully my husband is an S (Senser) and is good at these things. That’s why he runs our business now and I provide support to him in the background.
The thing that most gets me into trouble is the Feeler side of things. I’m wired to try and understand people’s motivations and needs so I’m always reading between the lines of what they are and aren’t saying. I’m also highly-focused on the subtle cues people put out that help me better understand said motivations and needs. I get a huge hit of dopamine every time someone tells me they feel I ‘just get them’. On the flip side, I get very frustrated and upset if I don’t ‘get’ someone and I feel like I’ve failed them. I am working on not thinking like this! (See aforementioned mind reading thing.)
The Judger side of me is the bit I am most comfortable with. It doesn’t mean I sit around judging people! It means I “prefer a planned or orderly way of life, like to have things settled and organised, feel more comfortable when decisions are made, and like to bring life under control as much as possible.” It also means I don’t mess around – I get things done! I love this side of myself. I love being an organised person of action (even though, yes, it does occasionally put me on the path to burnout.)
So what else do you need to know? Well over the past five years there have been some fairly torrid periods but all that water under the bridge has brought me to this moment in time – a moment where I feel very settled and content; very in sync with the ideals of ‘A Life Less Frantic.’
And that’s pretty much it really.
Unless of course you are super nosy and want more. In which case:
- Here are 10 things you don’t really need to know about me.
- Here are 7 things that were great about being 37.
- My life story. (Literally.)
Here are my favourite things I’ve ever written on this blog
- The story of Ant and I (up to Mia’s birth).
- This series on personality types.
- This rather melancholic piece about life.
- What I’ve learned from trying to be someone else.
What’s my professional background?
I studied Human Movement and Exercise Science (HMES) at uni. I worked in a Sports Admin role straight out of uni and it took about 18 months to realise that as much as I loved sport/health/fitness/physiology/psychology/etc, these weren’t areas I wanted to work in (although a lot of those HMES learnings underpin my writing today).
So I went and re-trained in graphic and web design (I make that sound so easy right? It was actually pretty full-on!) Not long after finishing that round of study I got a graphic design job for a marketing agency. And I worked there for nearly five years before striking out on my own with Swish Design.
Swish Design grew quickly and three years into that journey my first child was born. 18 months later I pretty much had a nervous breakdown. There were a few things going on at that time but ultimately, the role I’d created for myself in the business was very ‘not right’ for me. So my husband took over running the business and I moved towards doing more writing, editing and designing.
Nowadays I am editor at Flying Solo and have stepped out of the front line at Swish Design. (I still help in the background with blog writing, marketing and staff support however.) This combination makes for a much better balance for our family