Reflections at 40 – Priorities – 23/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 30, 2017

When we’re on the overwhelm slide, that’s when any work we’ve done understanding our core values comes in handy.

Reflections at 40 – Overwhelm – 22/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 29, 2017

For people with kids and careers especially, the predominant thought is, ‘This is just how life is for people like me.’

Reflections at 40 – Busy – 21/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 28, 2017

I often see articles referring to the ‘cult of busy’, talking about how most people wear the word as a badge of honour.

Reflections at 40 – Identity – 20/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 27, 2017

I’ve always had a strong sense of identity. Once depression took hold, however, it destroyed my confidence and with it, my sense of self.

Reflections at 40 – Better – 19/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 26, 2017

Unconditional love from family and friends gave me a safe place from which to take two steps forward, one step back, one step sideways.

Reflections at 40 – Saying No – 18/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 25, 2017

Of course, I never said a flat out ‘No’ to someone’s face. That was a step too far for me, someone who was addicted to people-pleasing.

Reflections at 40 – Permission – 17/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 24, 2017

Why is it that we need to get permission to do the things we know we need to do? Is it because they always involve disappointing someone?

Reflections at 40 – Help – 16/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 23, 2017

I thought it was arrogant and unrealistic of me to want the achieving without wanting to pay the price everyone else was paying.

Reflections at 40 – Stories – 15/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 22, 2017

Telling ourselves we’re ‘great’, or ‘doing a good job’, or daring to articulate the big dreams we have goes against much of our social programming.

Reflections at 40 – Sabotage – 14/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 21, 2017

When it comes to change, it’s easy to see self-sabotage and regression as the same thing because they lead to the same place.

Reflections at 40 – Regression – 13/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 20, 2017

It was tough to live. For those who loved me it was frustrating to watch. And I beat myself up mercilessly for every regression.

Reflections at 40 – Values – 12/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 19, 2017

Whenever I find myself struggling and going into what I call ‘grasping’ mode, I know it’s time to check in with my values.

Reflections at 40 – Magic Bullets – 11/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 18, 2017

Whenever I’m really struggling, I go searching for magic bullets and secret sauces. I become convinced there’s ‘one thing’ that’s just going to ‘change everything’

Reflections at 40 – Therapy – 10/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 17, 2017

I knew how much work lay ahead of me in terms of getting better, and, frankly, I was terrified of what that work looked like.

Reflections at 40 – Rock Bottom – 9/40

By Kelly Exeter | July 16, 2017

I just couldn’t see how or when things were going to get ‘better’, and it occurred to me that it would be easier for everyone if I was gone.